Pressure…pressure…pressure for Valentine’s Day. I always think that I have to be the easiest person to buy for on Valentine’s Day. I love everything that has to do with being a female. However, I have been told on more than one occassion that people who buy for me feel pressure because I am particular. Not that I ever noticed!!
Unfortunately, it is not just the day of hearts and flowers that causes men to sweat…it is any day that women have expectations…birthdays, Mother’s day (don’t ever come up with the excuse that she is not your mother…if she bore you children…a box with a pretty bow should be on the horizon), anniversaries, your first date, the first kiss…the list goes on and on. When I did consulting work a few years back, I had the pleasure of working with one of the most gorgeous bed and breakfasts, Chimney Hill Estate Inn, in Lambertville, New Jersey. There I had a fantastic job . In short, I got the phone calls from all the men who were distraught because for one reason or the other they had found themselves in the dog house, were a little late in planning their wife’s birthday and had no idea where to start, or the good old fashioned…they were looking to get lucky and that was only going to happen with a whole lot of romantic notions. Viola…the Director of Dreams.
Let me tell you, while this seems like a drudgery, it was actually a special time when I heard the sweetest stories. Men truly want to do something things nice for their wives, girlfriends, or significant others. They just don’t know what it is that will wind our clock. Is it chocolate, flowers, high heels (I’m plugging that one), a card, wine….the list goes on. The truth is it’s all of those things and none of those things. Women love all of those things but to be fair unless you really know her size- come into Deborah Stilettos and buy a gift card. She will love coming into the store to try on all of our beautiful high heels, stilettos, chunky heels, flats…well you get the picture. However, don’t be Mr. Emotionless and think these items will get you a key to unlock to dog house door. We want you to be sweet. Come on…you can do it…fake it to you make it!
Romance is about the wining and dining but it is also about telling us how beautiful we look and how we are the love of your life. While you might have midnight plans of romance, don’t spell that out immediately. She already has a list of demands from kids, her aging parents, and boss. The best quote I ever heard from the book Men Are From Mars, Women are From Venus was that “men are microwaves and women are crockpots.” Don’t think you are just going to push start and the meal will be ready. Instead, bring the flowers, chocolates, gift card and sweet talk and slowly the pot will warm. Kisses Bellas, Deborah Stilettos. www.DeborahStilettos.com